Adult Bed Wetting
Adult bed wetting, medically called nocturnal enuresis, is sometimes considered the same as incontinence, butit is not. Most of the time nocturnal enuresis stops with wetting accidents in teens, but it still happens to men and women in the “prime of their life”.
adult bed wetting is not a rare occurrence. Surveys say, in the United States alone, there are approximately twelve million adults who have problems in controlling their bladder. This number may even be lower than the actual number of bedwetting adults simply because many adults keep wetting the a deeply guarded secret.
A 100% effective cure for adult bedwetting hasn’t been identified yet. Fortunately, the causes of adult bedwetting have been studied. This is a positive step towards helping the adult bedwetters. The causes of adult bedwetting can be classified to three categories: medical problems, physiological changes, and emotional stresses. To determine which is the cause of a certain adult’s bedwetting, a complete medical examination must be carried out.
Medical problems include the following:
- Diabetes – abnormal levels of insulin or sugar in the blood
- Cancer in the bladder – which leads to the malfunction of the bladder and the likely overproduction of urine
- Infection in the urinary tract – which makes the release of urine painful and uncontrolled
- Enlargement of the prostate gland – which disrupts a person’s control over his urination
- Presence of stones in the urinary tract – which interferes with the normal functions of the excretory organs
- Defects in the nervous system, particularly the central nervous system – which makes the process of urination uncontrolled by the brain
Physiological changes that trigger adult bedwetting are usually accompanied by aging. Some of these are the following:
- A radical change in sleep patterns which leads to the inability to hold in the urine
- Shifting biological clocks characterized by sleeping too early or waking up at dawn. Such may also meant that the brain has drastically changed the body’s patterns
- Changes in the levels of hormones result to older adults having trouble falling or staying asleep
When no medical problems or no physiological changes are seen in an adult, the bed wetting may be caused by extreme emotional stresses. Rejection, dismissal, death of a loved one, and other similar problems may have brought about the adult bedwetting.
Bedwetting Medications or a Bedwetting Alarm are great options to help adults that wet the bed, make sure and talked to your doctor about these options.
I have to talk about this. I peed the bed and its a problem. Its embarrassing. I don’t want to do it anymore. I’ve been going through a lot of stress in my life with my children and relationships. WTF! I hate this. I’m ashamed. The only thing I know is to relax during my waking hours especially since I choose to relax when unconscious. I feel cross wired to feel anxiety where its inappropriate. This is certainly a case of trust issues from early childhood for me. I need to resolve. If I am unconscious I need help. This is Bullsh*t!
Hey Kim my name is Felicia and I can honestly relate to your frustration and embarassment..I am 26 y/o and I too have been a bedwetter all my life..What I have been trying to do recently is drink more water instead of sodas and sugary drinks and I also have tried not going to bed w/a full stomach and I try to use da bathroom and empty out my bladder before I go to bed..this has helped me alot of times to wake up dry..plus I have been praying to god and asking him to help me get rid of this prob cuz its supa embarassing..I havent talked to my dr about it but I will and when I find a cure I will let you know..In da meantime please dont be so hard on yourself b~cuz you are human w/bodily functions that keep on working even while we sleep
Ok, so it’s 315 in the morning, and this peeing thing just happening. I’m not so much embarrassed by it as I am curious. This only happens to me once a year, if that. I don’t have excess fluids before I go to bed. I haven’t done anything out of the ordinary today. My stress level has changed in the last few months. But every time I wet the bed, I am dreaming that I’m going to the bathroom. THIS IS WITHOUT FAIL. Every time I have woken up to a wet bed I remember having dreamt that I was relieving my self at a urinal or toilet. Because of this, I have to suspect that my brain knows that I’m peeing in my sleep. There has only been one occasion when I have been in the middle of dreaming, realized what is going on in reality, and consciously forced my self out of the dream state to wake up and go to the bathroom. I don’t understand why this is happening.
To Kimberly & Felicia: When this happens to you, are you also dreaming that you are relieving yourselves? If not, do you remember dreaming anything prior to waking up and discovering a wet bed. Please let me know. Thanks, Hanover.
I’m a 32 year old male and Ive had an infrequent problem with bedwetting for the past 12 years. It’s happened about 6 or 7 times in the last 12 and nearly every time I can recall urinating in my dream. The most recent occasion I was able to wake myself in time to stop after urinating for about 1 or 2 seconds. I jumped out of bed, checked the mattress, stripped off my urine soaked clothes, and as I stood naked in my bathroom grumbling to myself, my alarm went off in the bedroom. Strange I thought. Just a few days earlier I was able to wake myself up for work without my alarm. Not sure if there is any correlation between any of this. Just wish it would stop but, I have a feeling I will struggle with this for the rest of my days.
Good luck to you all!
I have had seperate phases of bedwetting. One normally occuring as a small child. Then in my early teens I had a year or two where it was a big issue and I could hardly go a dry night. During the teen years I frequently would dream of walking into a bathroom or seeing feet under a bathroom stall and hear someone peeing while I relieved myself. Those dreams were the only way I trained myself to wake up, though it would usually be midway through doing my business. I don’t recall how I ended up stopping, but I still had random occurances of bedwetting, especially if I was sleeping somewhere unfamiliar, like a friend’s house or a hotel (probably the most embarassing EVER). When I moved out of my parents house at 18 there were no other incidents until I moved back at 22. I am a heavy sleeper, I think that has a lot to do with it, though I wouldn’t rule out underlying psychological issues. I am now 25 and I wet my bed on average once a week, or whenever I drink alcohol (then I really sleep like a rock and I have a diuretic in my system!). I’m sick of washing my sheets, I want to spend the night at someone’s house (but I can’t trust my bladder)
Hanover, yes that is exactly what happens to me…. i think i only do it times of stress…. as its been years since i last did it…. and at the moment i have a fairly new job which i like a lot… i am getting married in 4 months and my mum is being treated for breast cancer…. but i was dreaming about going to the loo and then woke up to a wet bed…..
I am a 39 y/o woman who just wet the bed for the 2nd time this month. As my husband lays next to me, I am trying to figure out how to tell him. Last year i was placed on hormone therapy. THree months ago my father died, and 6 weeks ago my grandma died. Im wondering if this is stress related. Im terrified something may be wrong with me medically! Oh did I mention I have anxiety and am on meds for it?
I am too scared to even tell my best friend. help!
it was last night that i wet the bed..dreaming of going to bathroom peeing…waking up with wet bed…so embarrassed of my self…my husband was wet too…and he is so kind to tell that it’s ok but it’s not ok with me…i had a history of bedwetting when i was a child…so stressed out from my work…do you think its related…i have bedwetting history also even when i am in college but its like this maybe in a year i bedwet at least 3 times…help me..
I have had a problem with wetting the bed throughout my adult life. For years this has kept me from dating seriously but am proud to say I am finally making lead way. I am looking for a good supplier of plastic sheets in the South Riding area. If you can be of any help, please contact me on my e-mail. It is lrarizme@hotmail.com
-Luis
I am giving Luis the same info that I’m posting here regarding plastic sheets.
http://www.bedwettingstore.com/Bedding/category_vinyl.htm
On a personal update, so far, still dry, lol.
~Hanover~
Wow these stories sound like mine the first time it happened to me I thought it was because I was tooo drunk and my brain couldn’t tell me to get the hell up… but then it almsot happened last year but I realized what was goin on and I woke up and stopped peeing .but this last time a couple nights ago I actually thought I was on a toilet and I ended peeing on my boyfriend and myself.Talk about embarressed o yes I was embarressed we laughed it off changed clothes flipped the matress but for hours I coulndt go back to sleep I really dnt kno what’s wrong with me! So when I got up this morning I looked up adult bedwetting and here I am. I can honestly say I am extremely stressed out but damn I’m 23 yrs old this is not a good look. So I’m gonna pray about this situation and you all should too.
Hey guys, i honestly thought i was the only one in the world with this problem. It is sooo embarrassing, i am 23ys old and still wet the bed. sometimes it will not happen for a couple weeks, then start back again. I feel so depressed and hopeless.
Ok,…so talk about jinxing myself! Since my last post, I had remained dry until 515 this morning. This dream was a bit different. I still dreamt I was peeing, but instead of standing up, I was sitting on the toilet. Once again, it seemed so real that I had n problem relieving myself. I should have known I was dreaming, though, because I saw a shotgun in my bathroom! Can you believe that! Who keeps a shotgun in their bathroom!?!? Apparently, I do, because I didn’t find this out of the ordinary and just kept going. I don’t remember what arose me from my wet REM state, but when I got up, thankfully, the couch wasn’t soaked(I fell asleep playing video games). The pillows only had some spotting on them, but my underwear and shorts were done. Again, I don’t feel particularly stressed. I might have had too much to drink while playing, I don’t remember.
I’m reading the other posts your guys are sending in, and though I admit bed-wetting can be an awkward situation, I’m going to try to make my posts as humorous as possible. If you can’t laugh at yourselves about it, laugh at me. Seriously, I understand you’re concerned, but the more you worry about it, the more stress you’re going to get. The more stress you add to your lives, the worse it’s going be. Now, I’m not suggesting you setup a webcam for it(Although, there are probably people out there who would pay to see it), but change starts from the inside.
On a therapeutic note, have any of you tried hypnosis? Perhaps going under and getting subliminal counseling could help us when our subconscious has the reigns? Just some food for thought.
P.S. Really…a shotgun? Lmao!
This happened to me last night. It was very shocking because I never, not even once, ever wet the bed in my childhood. I’d always wake up if I needed to go- it was never a problem. Now I’m 20 and just like Hanover said, I dreamed I went to bathroom/used a toilet in my dream then suddenly woke up in a start to realize my panties and my expensive micro foam mattress was wet. After I changed everything I could that was wet- I was afraid to go back to sleep in fear it would happen again! Most of the other people who have commented seem to all have a history of bed wetting that goes back to childhood, which is much more understable to me. The Diabetes cause in the article standed out to me because my mother mentioned to me recently how diabetes runs in my father’s side of the family and that its probably a good idea for me get tested. I guess I should now!
I’m glad I found this site. Over the last two months I’ve woken up at least once a week with my pj pants pulled down and me about to have a pee. I always dream that i’m on the toilet and I wake up just as i start letting go.
I told my fiance yesterday and now he’s scared to sleep in the bed with me. Can this really just be stress???
I have this problem too. It happens like Hanover, I dream that I’m sitting on the toilet — I can feel the cold seat on my ass, I actually look down at my thighs in the dream, I pinch my thighs or scrape my nails on them to determine if I’m awake, I look around and see my bathroom around me and I pee but since I’m dreaming, I don’t feel like I’m comfortable as I pee, I feel stressed out almost like I know somewhere in my mind that I’m peeing in the bed. This happens a lot lately, whether I was drinking booze or not.
Now dig this, interestingly, I had one dream where I was sitting on one of many toilets, out in the open, kind of like in the army or jail, just a row of thrones. There are other people, men and women, around me and this time I feel uncomfortable peeing on the toilet in front of everyone. I ended up waking up before I peed. I think it was my brain trying to signal me to wake up by showing me in what I felt was an inappropriate place to pee, you follow me?
But during the day now, when I pee, I literally scrape my thighs or slap myself to fully know what “awake” feels like. So my brilliant brain follows up by adapting the dream to make me think I”m really awake. I think it’s a form of sleepwalking or some shit.
Some background: I’ve always had this problem, it used to only happen maybe 1x a year. Lately I had some stress but nothing out of the ordinary. I had a DWI arrest about 5 months ago and my life has changed drastically. I’ve been drinking even more now that I walk to the bar. Nothing happened for a couple months, But this past month I peed already 4x including one time where I *completely* emptied my bladder. 3 x in one week. I’m not even embarrassed anymore, I’m very, very curious.
Thanks for listening, and as I read your stories, I really could relate to all of you and I’m sending you all mental hugs right now. Don’t be ashamed, just pray and send yourself some love. Think of all the good things you do in this life. Much love, write back ok. lUv, Lisa
Omg I know what you guys mean. I am freaked out. I wet the bed FOUR times in the past few months. As a 25 year old I know better but I don’t know how to fix it. I totally dreamt that I was on the toilet too! I have never had this problem before and I am conpletely embarassed. I fell asleep on a really nice couch and woke up to the smell of stale urine. I have noone to talk to about it and I am afraid to tell my boyfriend. Luckily we have a puppy. So he probably thinks the puppy had an accident. I can’t afford to go to a doctor. Hopefully this clears up soon. I feel horrible about it!
Hello group! Sorry we are meeting because of this embarrassing situation, but I haven’t wet the bed in 13 years. I also dream I’m on a toilet and wake up soaked. I didn’t realize I was stressed. I have been in a relationship for 5.5 years and my boyfriend and his teenage son moved in about 6 months ago. When I woke up this morning at 3:30, it was because I was wet. I woke my man up and told him to get up so I could change sheets. What’s fascinating to me is we all have dreaming in common. I usually wake myself up in time, but not this time. Glad I’m not alone. Maybe we can get prescribed massages to ease the stress!
I have honestly thought it was a defense mechanism to what happened to me as a child, but now I have the occurence more often after I have had a few drinks. It has been an issue my intire life and although my husband is understadning (Thank GOD) it is still not OK with me. I have noticed, when I have to go it is RIGHT now and I don’t always get much notice… I could be sitting at home and get the sensation and blow it off and 2 minutes later praying I make it to the toilet in time! I HATE THIS!!! its time for it to stop!!!
The dreams about sitting on the toilet and going to the bathroom are the worst! I have those frequently too! Maybe it’s my mind teling me I know what’s right but I am not waking up to fulfill the need! Frustrating!!!
Hey all im just here to let you guys know that if you feel that your the only one in the world who has this problem your not! Here is my story… Iam a 26 year old female who has wet the bed since i was a child. My childhood was terriable. I could never sleep over someones house or have someone sleep over. Everytime my bday came around I wished for me to stop bedwetting. But it never happend. My cousins and all my family new of this. Of course I was teased and called names. My dad was in the military so all I saw was naval doctors. They told my parents i was being lazy and didnt want to go to the bathroom. They couldnt find anything wrong with me. My parents bought me bed alarms and they didnt work. I always had covering over my bed. Everytime I would wet the bed my mother would beat me. I was beaten majority of my life. She would tell me that i was nasty and that i liked sleeping in urine. She would tell me that I couldnt wash my sheets because it ran up their bill. Mind you at that time i was only 13. From 13 to 18 it became worst. She would always say well atleast I dont have to ever worry about any boys because no one wants a girl that wets the bed. She would even threaten to call boys on the phone and tell them. Thinking that she would scare me out of it. So their were nights where i slept in soiled sheets. One time she came and tucked me in the sheets and said goodnight. I would wake up to towels stuffed under my door so that you couldnt smell my room. I then had to start washing my sheets in the tub and letting them air dry. She wouldnt let me sleep with any of the blankets. She told me that i was not going to mess up her things. My younger brother felt sorry for me cause he knew how our mother would treat me. I would wake up to Jasmine get up! you are making my upstairs smell like pee. She told me that i was going to sleep out in the garage. There were so many nights I cried and cried! It hurt so bad! When i turned 20 i joined the military. I had a hard time hiding it. really in bootcamp with all of us in one room and early suprised wake up calls was hard. I became pregant while i was in military and of course i had to move off post. so i had my own privacy. I then had to go to iraq 2007 that was so hard. I knew with us going to the field and other deployments, i knew i was not going to be able to stay in. so i used my right of getting chapter out on a family care plan. I sleep very hard and the doctors told me that i might have sleep apnea. I did several sleep studies but i dont. I was put on ditropan, oxybutin, decompressin, and many other medications but they didnt work. I wear depends. The doctors told me its an issue with my nervous system and that its not sending signals to my bladder to wake me up. This has kept me from being in a serious relationships. I am depressed and I feel so hopless. People that dont have this issue are so quick to say dont feel embrassed but if the shoe was on the other foot they would be. I have thought about taking my own life before. But my lord and savior jesus christ loves us very much and knows what we go through. I dont understand why i was dealt or why you were dealt this card in life. I pray that everyone gets the help they need and they find a cure and that you will find someone that loves YOU for YOU depsite your medical issue. If they cant stand beside you through this then they dont love you. But do know that you are not alone. God bless all of you!
My story is similar to Jasmine’s. I’m 36 years old, female, and have done it ALL my life. You would think by now I would know the trigger, but I don’t. I use to think it was only when I got too cold then I would be hot and do it. If I drank alot of caffeine, then I would do it with just water. When I was a kid, my parents took me to the doctor. As a child, I did have a small bladder and developed urinary infections almost constantly, but I grew out of those I suppose.
Then my doctor got the brilliant idea of the alarm. The second anything wet hits this pad, this INSANE alarm blasts SOOO loud to try to scare you out of it I suppose. Only thing it did was traumatize me, I still pee’d, screamed at the top of my lungs in fear. Needless to say the alarm only lasted two nights. They tried to say it was laziness or that I am such a deep sleeper the muscles around my bladder that hold in the urine also relax and it leaks out.
I too got the spankings, the humiliation of my mattress being drug outside with the huge stain on it after I wet the bed each night. I was, and still am, petrified others will find out. However I am now a master at hiding it. My now husband didn’t find out about it for a few months into our relationship. Lucky for me, he accepts me for who I am and now 16 years later, we are still together and thriving.
I have had the dreams of going to the bathroom and yes, I then wet the bed. Each and every night before I go to bed, I empty my bladder. Doesn’t matter though, I still do it. I have periods of it really. I will go a few days dry, then a week or two wet, then a week or two dry, etc.
I’ve never met anyone with the same problem though. Come to think of it not that someone would walk up and say “hey there, this is jane and btw i wet the bed!” lol. My 10 year old daughter doesn’t do it THANK GOD. I was SO scared for her. She keeps my dirty little secret and knows it is forbidden to tell ANYONE. My husband respects that as well. I would be mortified if someone found out that I had to face. Even my parents don’t know I still do it. They assumed I grew out of it. God knows I don’t need all the comments starting back up again.
I’m hoping they come up with something for us. Even though I have done it for 36 years, you would think I would be use to it by now. It still deeply upsets me each and every time I do it. It is so frustrating, ESPECIALLY when I do it the night after my husband washed the bedding. That gets me every time. GOD FORBID if I enjoy CLEAN DRY bedding and mattress.
Sorry for my ramble, I feel all of your pain, trust me. And I’m sure you aren’t too happy about reading about my story, being 36. I hope I didn’t crush anyone’s hopes of finally out growing it seeing most of you are in your 20′s.
Wow Jasmine, that’s a hella story. I really feel for you…..you’d think the family would back you up….I’ma say a prayer for you and everyone here….me too
hey jasmine your story is soo identical to mine in soo many ways. I am sorry that you had to go through so much though especially for something that isn’t your fault and is so mysterious to all of us.Well i am 23 now, but when i was younger both my parents just though i was lazy and didn’t want to get up. I mean who mean willingly pee themselves during sleep if they were able to get up!!! When it happens i feel so embarrassed and as i said my parents didn’t make it any better. But the good thing is i am an only child so i always had my own room so i was not really made fun of.In my case i sometimes spend time with relatives but not for more than a night or two,and i never wet the bed(which i am so00 thankful for) but i always freak out that it will happen someday. I really thought i was the only person in this world with this curse(because what else can you call it). well at least now it doesn’t happen quite ofter maybe once a twice or week and some weeks it doesn’t happen at all.
I am suppose to be getting married next year and i don’t even know how to begin to tell my fiance about this problem. I just keep praying it goes away soon.
Lets all continue to pray for our selves and each other.
My just turned 9 year old daughter is FINALLY cured of bedwetting! We are all so excited!! We tried Desmorpressin 0.2 MG, but it did nothing for her. We just had to be patient until her brain was ready to communicate with her body while she was asleep.
I know that this is such a touch subject with Rx’s, but I have many left over tablets from her prescriptions that went unused, as they did not work for her. We were on an automatic renewal and since we had a low copay, they kept coming until I finally canceled. I have put them all on one Rx bottle to condense space in my medicine cabinet.
If I knew someone personally who needed these, I would be thrilled, but I do not. I just hate to waste… If you would want to have them, I would be happy to send them to you, but I understand that these are opened, so you may be hesitant to administer anything to your children from anyone that you do not know.
Tiffany, Im glad to know that their is someone else whos story is almost similiar. How you felt when you stay at a relatives house and have a dry night.. is pretty much how we all felt! Thankful and just let out a big sigh:) So you are getting married next year! Congrats to you! I am getting married next april of 2012 so im there with ya:) As far as telling your fiance, you do have to tell him. I know it may seem hard and so embrassing but if he loves you for YOU no matter what then he will listen. The first time I stayed at my fiances apartment I had an accident. OMG! You talk about my heart in my stomach. The worst feeling. Mind you we were both in the army. I told my self jasmine you can do it just lay beside him and not sleep very hard. I thought i was going to be able to control it. Well any way that moring we had PT. Where we do exercises but we have to be there at 6:30am. So I woke up at about 5 and realized I was wet! Im like what am I going to do? Luckily he left before I did! I rolled up the sheets and flipped his mattress over. I took the sheets with me and put them in a bag. I told him that I came on my period and I had to wash the sheets. I got away with it that time. But after that he pretty much caught on. Because I would sleep on oneside of the bed and tuck the sheets under me and plus i would wait til he got out of bed. He knew but he just didnt want to say anything. Maybe your fiance knows but just hasnt said anything to you. He would ask me is there anything that you want to tell me. I would say no. Then he just asked me why is it that you have to keep washing the sheets. I then broke down and started to cry and told him everything from my childhood and on. Its a medical problem and its not your fault. My fiance loves me genuinely and yours does to if he is planning on marrying you. Your the only one in the world he wants and showed that by asking you to marry him. You are the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. With that being said he should love you flaws and all. But just tell him there is something you need to talk to him about. You may get emotional and it is okay. You guys will get through this. Support from him makes a big difference.
Jasmine and tiffany my boyfried of 8 years has had a bedweeting problem all his life at first he tried to hide it from me but I knew I don’t care either way I still love him no matter what he wets the bed at least 4 nights a week
Meg he is blessed to have you in his life! I understand why he tried to hide it. Just be supportive and help him anyway that you can! God bless you!
I have wet the bed 3 times in the last year. I am more curious & worried than anything. I wake up in the middle of doing it. I am equating it to sleeping “too hard” but I am also worried it is medical. I don’t dream that I am going though. Anyone else experience this?
I’m 28 years old and have never peed the bed as an adult… until last night. I have had the “potty” dreams before but have always woken up in time to go to the bathroom. I have been under a lot of stress lately and doctor has ordered me to take muscles relaxers for an unrelated issue. I’m sure it didn’t help that I had a big glass of water before bed. I’m sure it was a combination of all those things, but now I’m stressed that it will happen again. I haven’t told my husband yet, I hope I never have to
I am 18 years old and I have wet the bed my entire life. I am so grateful to find this forum, I felt like I was the only person in the world with this problem! I am going to college in the fall and I worry about hiding it from my roommate. I also have the constant fear of never having a normal relationship because no one would want a girl who wets the bed. Are there any bedwetters out there who have had normal relationships?
In response to Hanover,
I have had the same situation where I am dreaming of standing at the toilet urinating. In reality I have started to pee in bed. I remember this dream happening multiple times before but only this time and one other over a decade ago. Other times I was able to stop dreaming it before I went in bed. I am telling my wife today, I hope she understands and wont make me feel worse than I already do, embarrassed.
I wet the bed occasionally as a kid. I remember I was about 6or 7 and I was terribly shamed. My mother washed the sheets and I think it happened several times.
As an adult, it started after my husband died suddenly, but not right away, more like a few times a year. I made sure I didn’t drink alcohol or any liquids after 6pm and it still happened occassionally. I was 43.
Now in my middle life “it” happens 2-3 times a year. I’m usually dreaming that I am sitting on a toilet. My 2nd husband is very sweet about it but I’m totally embarressed. I have prayed for a very long time and done kegel exercises and sometimes it only happens 1 or 2 times a year. But I did it again this morning and I’m totally distressed. I have a to spend the night in a B&B soon and another business trip coming up and instead of looking forward to it, I dread it.
Thanks for sharing everyone, it helps. A little.
Just wanted to say that my heart & prayers go out to all of you here. Although I personally have never has this problem, my oldest brother did as a child. Not sure if he still does. However, my boyfriend if 3 years has this issue. He feels SOO embarassed every time it happens. While I am concerned as to why this happens, It in no way changes my deep LOVE for this man. When we first moved in together, he had not told me of this problem. I was changing the sheets for the first time & seen the stained mattress. I never said anything to him about it cause I know most people feel this is a personal issue. Them Blammo! It happened one night & he was totally embarassed. I just told him don’t sweat it cause shit happens.I’m sure he probably thought I would move out or make fun of him or something. NO WAY!!! Although we still have this going on I always assure him that it’s no big deal to me. I LOVE & ACCEPT him regardless of all else. He is a diabetic but I have been told by close family members that he always had this “problem” even as a child.To any of you here that have been mistreated in any way because of this,my heart breaks for you
As for those who mistreated you because of it, THEY are the ones with the problem.Also, I have a house dogwho also has a “peeing” issue. Most of the time he’s pretty good about it but he too has his moments. I get a little frustrated at times but he’s still my boy. Most people would think “get rid of him” but I can’t get rid of him cause he has his accidents. He has a heart too. I ended up on this site tryin’ to find something about the Adult bed wetting thing & glad I did cause I feel that God works in mysterious ways. So as I said, my heart & prayers go out to all of you here. Good luck & anyone that would like to e-mail me,you can do so @ mamaw0614@hughes.net GOD BLESS!!! 
I am so glad I found this website! It is nice to know that there are people in the world that have the same issue I have. I have been struggling with bedwetting my whole life, sometimes I can stop & then it just comes back. I am so embarrassed & at times it even makes me depressed because it feels like im never gonna be able to shake this. I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend & I love him so much & he loves me, we have a whole future planned out together & im am so worried because I just think about how were gonna be living together soon & he doesn’t know I have this problem & I don’t know how he’d react if he finds out. Sometimes I wanna tell him because I know he would love me despite of anything but it’s just so embarassing. Even my best friend doesn’t know, this problem has hunted me my whole life, sometimes I feel helpless & that im alone but I know there are millions of others out there going through the same thing but sometimes you just feel alone. I just give it to God & I pray.
I have had the same issues and since I was 8 to 18 I peed off and on. I realized I drinked to much before bed and stop and somehow went to bed with motivation not too and didn’t. So I went to bed earlier than usual and I had a bathroom dream and it was raining outside! I peed like a russian race horse all in my bed. I’m not mad or embarassed I just wonder how I let my gaurd down I was doing great. This may happen again later on in life but if I’m not doing it daily its okay. If that means setting my alarm every three hours to pee hey okay. It is humorous to me my sisters in the next room sleep and I can’t wait to tell her I laughed when o woke up because I swore I was on the toliet. Everybody take it easy.
God this is so embarrassing. I wet myself during the day as I couldn’t find the toilet in time thank god nobody was watching me at the time but now in the same night I wet myself in bed and am 28 this hasn’t happened before in my adult years. What is wrong?
Just because I accidentally wet myself today I do it again at night on the same day? Does mean something is wrong with me medically?
Maggie,
Don’t be ashamed, it could be something completely out of your control. You should probably mention the possibility to your husband and explain that it’s something that could happen again. I’m not sure which would be worst: explaining it before it happens, or surprising him when it does. Try not to stress over it, but rather, take action now. You’re lucky! You have some awareness and some knowledge, which is great! Good luck!
Hey guys, I have a bedwetting problem too. I’ve found all your stories very interesting and I can definitely relate to many of them though I think mine is a little different… I had a history of bedwetting as a child and I was one of those kids who just take a bit longer to grow out of it. After ruling out other problems early on my parents didn’t care about it. I was fortunate to have understanding family who didn’t make a big deal out of it. But just as I was starting to grow out of it and waking up dry most nights, another serious medical problem came up and I had to be fed through IV for 6 months; I couldn’t eat real food. At the time I was an underweight, active preteen so to get enough nutrition into me they had to give me more fluids than my body could hold. I had a problem with wetting my pants during the day then too because of that and I wet the bed almost every night. My mom was very supportive, but I was almost 13 by that time and becoming self conscious and it was getting really embarrassing by then and my dad couldn’t understand because I had stopped bedwetting before that and kept telling me I was old enough to know better which made it worse. The daytime accidents didn’t help at all either… But I knew it would not last forever and that helped make it bearable. Eventually my treatment ran its course and I got off the IV feeding and back on real food. Within two weeks I regained full control over my bladder during the day but I struggled with bedwetting for a couple years after that. I mean, it was definitely less and less, but it was like I had gotten used to waking up wet that my brain thought it was normal and it was like going through that childhood stage you have to grow out of all over again. Grrr. At that point I started having those dreams where I’m sure I’m sitting on the toilet, can feel the cold hard ring on my butt and hear the pee going, then wake up with a start halfway to the smell and realize I’m in bed! I didn’t have those dreams before as a child. As a teen I had them and it got to where I wet just a few times a year, mostly when under stress. I have no problems with being very open about things with my good friends, and honestly I think most adults bedwet on occasion, even if its just once in 10 years. Eventually my bedwetting did stop and I haven’t done it once for at least 8 years until this past weekend I’ve done it twice! I’m assuming my case now fits the biological changes thing mentioned in this article. I used to have trouble sleeping, like I’d sleep all the time but never felt I slept deep, never felt rested on waking. Sometimes I’d even feel like I was dreaming while still half awake, like I was conscious enough to know I was in my bed but I fell too quickly into dream sleep. I had a sleep study done a few months ago and definitely had a sleep problem… Plus I work and I have to be up at 4 A.M. to catch the bus to work and oftentimes I get home so tired I eat dinner and go straight to bed, going to sleep by 7 P.M. But 4 weeks ago I had open heart surgery, so now I am on leave from work. I am home and recovering well, but I have like no schedule to keep my nights on track by. Plus, I’ve noticed now ever since surgery I sleep very hard and where before I could go from sleep to consciousness in a few seconds, even respond to my alarm by the second chime, now it takes me forever to do that. Once I even slept straight through my alarm, woke up complaining the thing didn’t go off and a neighbor said oh yes it did it woke ME up! LOL! I wake up not knowing where I am all the time and that makes bedwetting worse cuz sometimes I wake up in the middle of doing it, realize I’m doing it, but not awake enough to know how to find the bathroom–I wake up SLOW. I slept that way as a teen too but bedwetting was still kind of infrequent then as I was in school and had a schedule, so hoping this will get better when I go back to work. My concern is back then if I slept through my alarm my mom was there to help, but now I’m alone so I’m worried I’ll sleep through and miss work. That’s the one advantage to bedwetting: I never ever sleep through that! As an interesting aside, in the days before vibrators and flashing lamps were invented to work with alarms, deaf people intentionally used the need to pee to wake up for work. They purposefully drank excessive amounts of water at a specified time before they needed to get up. Many just woke up when they felt the urge, but bedwetting became a stereotype for hearing impaired people at that time. And coincidentally, I am deaf myself…….. Anyway, what’s kind of funny is after my recent heart surgery, I had a real problem peeing. With all the anesthesia and meds and everything that’s to be expected. It was like I could go, but it took awhile and I had to really push to get going. After a couple weeks this went away altogether. But right as it went away, I wet the bed for the first time in years, and while I was doing it I was dreaming I was on the pot trying to go and it was really hard and I was like huh, weird, I thought I was over and done with that, then woke up with a start and realized I was laying in bed pushing really hard! And I was like no wonder. I mean, it has happened before in the hospital I couldn’t get up so they’d tell me to go in a bedpan, but its like my brain is trained to only let me let go if it thinks I’m sitting and even though I know there’s a bedpan and its OK to go I can’t! So it’s like my brain knew and was trying to tell me I was bedwetting. I didn’t think anything of it cuz like I said I think everyone does that now and again throughout their life and never tell, so I figured just wash the sheets and move on with it, nobody has to know. But last night it happened again
And this time I didn’t dream or anything, just completely let loose and woke up soakin’ wet! Rather like being a kid all over again. That scared me and I got on here wondering if it’s just a schedule thing or if I should be concerned that there is another new real medical problem…I guess we shall see 
I’m not so much embarassed by it but living alone helps. Next week though I’m going to be spending two weeks at a friend’s house while attending school and THAT is embarrassing, I don’t want to ruin her couch, and I don’t know her as well and have never stayed over before so… Life goes on…Those of you who have a mate that sleeps with you even though you wet found a very special person, a gem indeed 
Not to say that I like/choose to bedwet when alone, but it’s much worse if I’m sleeping with another person. It usually doesn’t happen then because I guess I feel the urge in my sleep and start tossing and turning and kicking and it wakes them up and they wake me to make me stop and I realize I need to go before anything happens, but still the anxiety of it possibly happening and the embarassment if it does is no fun. And hey, Hanover, speaking of you seeing a shotgun in your bathroom…LOL! How about this one: I sleepwalk all the time and as a child I once got up sleepwalking and peed into a desk drawer full of pencils and masking tape and stuff! All the best to everyone and keep hanging in there.
I’m a little nervous to be posting this, because it’s not my own problem. On the other hand, it sort of is. My boyfriend of two years wets the bed periodically. I hate to talk about it openly because it embarrasses him so thoroughly. He’s had this problem since he was a child. His parents ignored it and his ex-wife was absolutely horrible about it.
The thing is, I’m not sure how to support him in this. It’s only a problem maybe once or twice a month. Sometime he goes several months without a single incident. Medicating him seems excessive as he has no other health problems. Considering how infrequent the problem is, special underwear or an alarm also seem a bit excessive. I bought a mattress cover and it’s no trouble to wash the sheets.
But even though he’s loathe to talk about it, I know how much it troubles him when I’m the one waking up wet at night. He blames himself. I’ve tried reminding him how often I’ve had to get up in the morning to scrub blood out of the sheets when I get my period unexpectedly or my pad leaks. I remind him that things like this happen to everyone now and then, but he just shrugs it off and won’t accept that it’s not his fault.
I love him and I want to help him not feel so badly over something that is outside his control. I think he thinks I don’t understand. Or possibly he thinks that he should be doing something differently. For all I know he thinks this makes him inadequate in general. I know better of course, but I have no idea how to convince him.
If anyone has any suggestions for me about how to talk to him about this, I would be extremely grateful.
I’m so happy to see that I am not alone. I’m upset because I didn’t start until I was eleven years old, around the time that my brother was born. I hid it from my mom by doing the laundry myself. No one ever knew. As the years went on it became less consistent and even though I did it maybe twice or so senior year of high school I felt confident that it was over.
I’m embarrassed to say that I actually found myself doing it twice in one night which has NEVER happened. I’m completely confused by it because I didn’t have anything to drink after 8 and I didn’t fall asleep until midnight.
A month into my freshman year of college I caught myself once. It’s now the summer before my sophomore year and I thought I was going to make it a whole year and then out of no where I did it. And then I skipped a night and did it again. Now it’s been a 3 night streak
It completely and utterly sucks because as an adult you are not suppose to have to deal with this! I am completely embarrassed by all of this and just wish it would stop.
I looked up some treatments and I can say that I will be cutting all caffeinated drinks out of my diet to see if that helps.
I am glad I found this website I am currently 25 years old, going on 26. Today I woke up at 6 am urinating on myself. I can honestly say I was so embarrassed I didn’t want to wake up my wife. The last time this occurred I was 22 and I have observed this seems to occur every 3-5 years. I feel it was probably due to the fact I drank to much water and a glass of juice before bed, not to mention I didn’t go to the bathroom before bed. Still it is really embarrassing and I’m afraid to talk to my wife about it.
OMG! I’m glad I’m not alone. I am 26 years old and married and I have wet the bed my entire life. I was also hit by my mother whenever I had an accident and it made me feel like trash. She eventually apologized for that a few years ago. I am really starting to get fed up and need some help. I see a Urologist and take meds but they do not seem to help. I’ve also tried empyting my bladder at night, avoiding caffeine and salty foods. My husband is very understanding (he wet the bed as a child) and says that it doesn’t bother him but that’s not the point…it bothers me. I have recently looked into this program that helps deal with the deep sleep problem that bedwetters have. I think this might help because I usually sleep so deeply. Sometimes, especially if I’m taking a nap, it takes forever for me to wake up. I’m concious but I can’t seem to open my eyes. I’ll let you guys know if it works out.
I am 39 years old and my secret dominates my life. I have no social life outside of work. I have only been on a couple of dates my entire life. As I get older, I regret the things I never did and am beginning to fear I never will. Outside of immediate family, no one has ever known my secret until now. I don’t know what will come of my posting this, but after reading some of the previous comments, I feel that I need more substance in my life. Thank you all for sharing.
Ok I’m a 23yr old female and last night I used the restroom on myself while I was sleep for the first time ever the crazy thing is I wasn’t even dreaming (well not that i know of)…I have had it happen when I dream of going but I wake up and go….to be honest I am truly embarrassed about it and my boyfriend keeps telling the to not worry about it its cool but I feel ppl look at it differently if it didn’t happen to them…my question is how common is this to just start happening?
i’m 64 and last night i wet the bed for the first time, i thought the cat had peed on me but it wasn’t her, i hope this is a one time thing, i take pills to make my urnation less often and i drink diet coke but these have been for years and as i said this is the first time we will see if it happens again cause as a lot of you said its embarassing and a hassel to wash the sheets john
Okay so it’s 4:45 in the morning and I just spent the last half hour or so cleaning my girl’s bed. This is the second time this has happened to me for the month. Last time I was dreaming about going to the bathroom and this time I’m not sure what happened. My girl was forgiving about it last time but this time since it’s earlier, I’m not too sure. I’m not sure if it’s stress or radical change in sleep patterns. I don’t have a job where I have to wake up really early but the problem is that I don’t work that job often nor does this bed wetting thing occur as often. I’ll try to use the bathroom before going to bed or at least don’t drink any fluids.
Hi everyone. Here’s one for you somewhat different. I’m 69 years of age and have had this begin only about 18 months ago. Then a few months later, then not for a long time. Perhaps a year. I thought it was over. Then a few weeks or a month ago I have another wet spot. And recently once or twice a week. I don’t think I emptied my bladder, but still wet. At my age I have an enlarged prostate. A common occurance for older men and also a possible cause of occasional bed wetting. I also had a kidney infection at my last physical exam in Jan. This can also cause a bout with bed wetting. I took antibiotics for 30 full days Such urinary tract infections can be very difficult to clear up. I think it was not completely cured. This last condition brings me to the point of this posting. It is very possible to have such an infection for years and not even realize it. It might be wise to have a doctor check for that possibility.
I am a 34 year old male who over the last 2 nights and days has experienced for the first time in my life bed wetting. I have gone to the doctor whole told me my culture is clean and my wife who is very supportive has told me it is ok even though i have peed the bed 7 times in 2 nights. She is very supportive to the point that she has washed the sheets both days following and I have purchased adult pants for nighttime to try to contain. I am very puzzled and embarrased with this situation as this has never happened to me before. Does anyone have similar experiences and what they did to help?
hello everyone my name is jasmine im 23yrs old and im am sooo tired and frustrated with this bed wetting bs ive been dealing with this since i was 6 yrs old and i am so tired of it…i thought i was alone and im so glad to know im not the only one i just thought there is something wrong with only me, its so embarrasing and i never talked to anyone about this…i remember getting beatings in the mornings when i was like 10yrs old because im to “lazy” to get up in the middle of the night and use the bathroom. i pray to god so hard about it amd it helps a little (i have 2 weeks of a dry spell) then it would just start back, ive tried everything alarms (by the time it went off it was to late) ive tried not drinking hours b4 bed (helps sometimes). i started to cry while writing because not only of the frustration of trying to stop it and the embarrasment and fear of others knowing it has also hendered me from having relationships ive only had 1 boyfriend in my life and thats the one im with now (known him for 8yrs dated for 3) and im terrified to fully let him in my life because of the bed wetting…when will this end!!!
What’s up? I just read all the stories on here and wow. I would of never thought so many people suffer from the same thing I do. This urinating at night thing started when I was about 22. Ever since then it’s been almost a yearly thing. After reading these stories I am surprised. Alot of y’all are experiencing the same dream I am. Using the pisser in my dream, only to awake to pee on myself. Another surprising fact is that we are all around the same age. I’m 26 now, and I am also a vet from OIF 08-09. Wetting myself at night is embarrassing man. I finally confessed myself to my wife today. I do feel better about getting this off my chest to her. But I have to find away to treat and prevent my problem. Usually the day after I super-soak myself, I per frequently throughout the day. Friday I’m going to the doctor. Hopefully I find out what’s going on. I’ve never been more worried to drink beer with guys, then I am now. Well nice talking, and remember WAKE UP!!! Peace you guys.
as in all I did was wet the bed
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Hey all, thank god for this site.
Like many people here I have been a lifelong bed wetter. Even now 38 years down the line there are time that it still happens. I have been very lucky with my partner who is very supportive when I have ‘-accidents’. He has admitted the hardest part of my condition is watching how it hurts me when I have woken wet.
Unlike some people, I do not get any warning dreams of sing he bathroom , in fact he only time I have had that, I actually woken up dry!
I have overtime probably used every kind of medication that be be prescribed, with one combination I lost 48 hours of my life, when I reacted very badly to them.
It is ironic that the wet sensor mats/ wet alarm would wake everyone up in my family but not me. I too had also used pads and tried a sheath but as I move about during the night when sleep, they have been of very little help.
I like many others would gladly give anything not to have this medical condition. I am also heartened to see that at long last it is ring discussed more openly rather than something that is a dark secret that must be hidden away.
I’m glad I found this site. I’ve been looking for something like this for awhile, and after reading a lot of your stories I feel relieved and I’ll be praying for each one of you. I never really wet the bed as a child, and it usually only happens once or twice a year to me, and like most of you, dreaming about going pee…when it first started happening I freaked out, wondering what was wrong with me. I grew up with my sister, who was a bedwetter our whole childhood. I watched her sleep on plastic sheets and have to load her bedding into the washer every morning. Thankfully our parents were much more understanding and not mean to her, but her habit stopped when she reached her teens. And then suddenly I was having the issue. it wasn’t until I got with my current boyfriend that I learned I wasn’t alone. He too has the problem, and way more severe than mine. His is once or twice a week, and he says its again, usually because he’s dreaming of peeing or he’s super comfy and he relaxes so much it just happens. He’s very grateful about how understanding I am about it, although you can see the shame on his face when he wakes me up to tell me we have to change the bed again. Just remember folks, you’re not alone. You are who you are and if you haven’t already, you’ll find someone who is understanding and loves you no matter what.
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im so glad i came here now i know im not alone. also why im having these problems.im crying im so happy im going to be ok, power is knowlegde
I’m 47 yo male and have wet the bed frequently and heavily my entire life. I never figured out a pattern or trigger, and nothing I tried made a dent in it. As a teen and young adult I felt TERRIBLE about it, but now I’m happily married and don’t even mind anymore, it’s just how I am. My wife and I can laugh about when I get her wet at night.
So to you younger folks worried about it, don’t! It’s not the worst thing in the world, it’s painless and just one of those goofy things to deal with.
What I’ve been doing that have helped out.
1) don’t drink any fluids before bed
2) try to urinate before you go to bed.
Hopfully this can help some people out.
I’m 32 and last night was the FIRST TIME in my entire life (since I was potty trained at 3) that I wet the bed. I NEVER wet the bed in my life.
Although, I didn’t pee enough to wet the bed but I started just enough to have to change my underwear and pajama pants. And strangely, I wasn’t dreaming about going to the bathroom at all (I’ve dreamt that before and never physically went), but it was something totally unrelated and as soon as I felt the sensation that I was starting to pee I jumped out of bed, felt the bed (it was dry) then went to the bathroom to finish.
Jesus Christ! I hope this never happens again! I was with the family at Christmas Eve last night so I wonder if that had something to do with this. I also bought a new toilet seat that day so maybe that had something to do with it.. who knows.
anyone have any tips for keeping the mattress clean ans smell free? we have gone through 3 mattresses in 9 years
Meg, I think the easiest way would be to invest in “Chux” for underneath the sheets. You should be able to pick them up in the baby isle of your local supermarket. Those large absorbent sheets are also great for when you’re working under your car. I have found that the disposable ones are very thin and when you put them in between the mattress and the sheets, you hardly know they are there. As far as the smell goes, Fabreze seems to work. Let me know if this helps.
P.S. I also listed a website where you can buy the chux.
Hi my name is(james kulp.) I am a 26 year old white adult male and I am an adult bedwetter at night time and I do wear adult diapers for my adult bedwetting at night time for it.
I sometimes wake up ‘wet’.People tell you all sorts of things.Wetting the bed is not the greatest disaster on Earth
It is not ‘fun’.When you wet the bed is that same dream I have….finding a toilet
Well ‘Hi’ James Kulp and all
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